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5 things not worth your time

Things not worth your time/ My Fashion Musings

First things first, how did this month move so freaking fast! Can someone please slow it down a bit?!

We are in the month of February, the month of love and I’m sure we have all shown ourselves love in various ways. Personally, I like to buy new shoes and eat good food (which I have been doing a lot) and while all that is amazing, we tend to forget one very important way to love ourselves.

Getting rid of the unimportant things that are not worth your time.

These things cause us so much worry and headache yet majority of us do not reflect back and cut these things out of our lives. Time is a very valuable resource because of how scarce it is (i.e. Look how February flew by) and we need to be strategic with how we use it. For me, it’s definitely still a work in progress.

Over the course of this month, I have consciously cut some things out of my life and I’m definitely better at it now. I urge everyone to be intentional with what our time is spent on and go through this list to see some things that are not worth your time.

DO NOT SPEND A NANOSECOND OF YOUR TIME ON:

Things totally out of your control


Many of us tend to overthink things such as the behavior of others or what people thing about us. Can you do something about it? If you can’t then there’s no point at all thinking/worrying about this. Your time needs to be spent making the things you can actually control better. If you can’t control it then it’s not worth your time.

Friends we don’t vibe with


I like to call this ‘forced friendships’. Once the relationship becomes a one sided relationship and you know no effort is put in from their side, then why stay? I’m also grouping these friends (are they really?) with those that talk sh*t behind your back or aren’t pleased when you are happy. I previously had this friend that always tries to put me down. She usually does this through mellow but very sinister comments whenever something good happens to me. I’m sure y’all relate but really a second of your time should not be spent on these kind of half assed relationships.

Comparisons


This is very similar to the first point above. Instead of looking at the lives of others and being envious, why not work on the things you can control, i.e. yourself?

Things you don’t enjoy


Sometimes the books, movies or even activities our friends/family enjoy may not be the same for us and a lot of people try hard to enjoy these things but just can’t. For example, last year during the game of thrones craze, literally everyone I knew watched and enjoyed it. Even my mum. So I was pressured into forcing myself to watch this movie that was boring to me and it was not a nice time for me. At all. If you don’t enjoy something even though others say it’s the best thing ever, don’t bother and definitely don’t force yourself. It’s not worth your time.

What do they think about me?


You should not care.

You cannot make everybody happy so why even bother what they think. Live life as you please and do the things that make you happy and fulfilled. I realized this quite late in my life and while I’m still taking steps to be my best self, I now understand that what they think of me actually doesn’t matter.

OUTFIT DETAILS


Top – Thrifted (N200 at Yaba)

Pants – I’ve had it for as long as I remember

Bag – @oeclat

Shoes – @DuneLondon

This post is in collaboration with 7 other beautiful bloggers from Covenant university who have shared posts about self love on their personal blogs. They are linked below:

-Onyinyechi Anozie (iamyeychii) of iamyeychi.com

-Ayoyinka Morawo (ayoyinka_) of noiwrites.com

-Rosemary Akharume (rose.akharume) of olohirere.wordpress.com

-Favour Nnadi (vourdi)

-Precious Ajoku (preciousajoku) of Preciouschronicles.wordpress.com

-Akintelu Feyisayo (feyisayo_a) of witnol.wordpress.com

-Bethel Olufuyatan (iam_bethel) of storiesbybethel.wordpress.com

 

Let me know some things you think are not worth your time in the comments section below!

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26 Comments

  • Reply
    Olanike
    February 28, 2018 at 2:47 PM

    Reading this I kept saying “yeahhh that’s right”, ” Ohh Subomi you are on point” and that part about not forcing yourself to like what others love when you don’t necessarily have interest in it, I totally resonated with it. As always, this is another great post dear.

    P.s Yunno you can always order those shoes you crave from me😄, well I’m entrepreneurial and I sell shoes. Lol Nice one dear

    • Reply
      Subomi
      March 1, 2018 at 8:05 PM

      Haha thanks Olanike. I’d definitely check out your shoes, where can I check them out?

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    Demilade
    February 28, 2018 at 5:38 PM

    Ooh love the collab, will be checking out the other bloggers. Yes to not worrying about things out of your control. It’s something I battle with sometimes but as you said, you can’t do anything so just leave it. And also yes to not forcing yourself to enjoy things. I like to go with the flow when it comes to things like that. Even if it means watching a show three years after everyone was raving about it because that’s when I want to. Great post Subomi, you look so pretty!
    Coco Bella Blog

    • Reply
      Subomi
      March 1, 2018 at 8:04 PM

      Thanks a lot Demi, haha I always watch TV shows ages after it has raved lol. Thanks for your comment babe

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      Olanike
      March 1, 2018 at 11:06 PM

      Hi dear, please check out Krystal’s Collection on Facebook. Thank you 💕

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        Subomi
        March 5, 2018 at 11:53 PM

        I will, thanks babe

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    Michelle
    March 1, 2018 at 7:40 PM

    I really get you, I used to worry about what others would think but I came to realise that your life is yours and if you grow or fail it’s yours to own. I also don’t like wasting my time on unnecessary arguments I prefer to apologise just to end useless arguments. It doesn’t mean you are a fool ,it just means you are wise.

    • Reply
      Subomi
      March 1, 2018 at 8:04 PM

      Yess to personal growth babe! Thank you for this wise comment love

  • Reply
    Olamide
    March 3, 2018 at 6:49 PM

    Yes I totally agree on friends we don’t vibe with. I mean why waste your time when nothing is coming out of the friendship. I also agree with the others you listed.

    • Reply
      Subomi
      March 5, 2018 at 11:53 PM

      Absolutely. Thank you Olamide for stopping by!

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    Krystin
    March 6, 2018 at 12:34 AM

    This is such a great post and I couldn’t agree more! Why waste time wondering what people think of you? it’s such a pointless thing, brings me to that quote ‘what people think of you is none of your business’. Thanks for sharing!

    • Reply
      Subomi
      March 6, 2018 at 6:59 AM

      Honestly I love that quote because it’s actually none of our business. Thank you Krystin

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    Shannon
    March 6, 2018 at 1:22 AM

    Love this post! I think we all need these reminders sometimes!

    • Reply
      Subomi
      March 6, 2018 at 6:59 AM

      Yes! All these reminders are definitely needed sometimes!

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    Brenda
    March 6, 2018 at 1:59 AM

    Love the look, great advice

    • Reply
      Subomi
      March 6, 2018 at 6:58 AM

      Thank you Brenda!

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    Susanspecs
    March 7, 2018 at 7:40 PM

    you are beautiful!!! if it is not of any benefit, I don’t think it is worth my time. It’s just that it is easier said than done, so I am consciously working on not wasting my time on things that are not worth it. Thanks for sharing babe.
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    • Reply
      Subomi
      March 7, 2018 at 7:42 PM

      Yes babe, it is definitely easier said than done. But conscious effort to stop worrying about all these unnecessary things would definitely make life better. Thanks for your comment Susan!

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    Raluca
    March 8, 2018 at 7:34 PM

    Great article and I agree with every single word. This life is to short to waste it on unworthy things.

    • Reply
      Subomi
      March 9, 2018 at 6:25 PM

      Definitely Raluca, Thank you!

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    Elaine
    March 9, 2018 at 3:43 AM

    Your point about letting go of the friends you don’t vibe with is spot on. I was discussing this same topic with a friend a few days ago. She mentioned that she doesn’t want to completely disengage from a friendship with a girl we knew in college because she feels like as an adult it’s so hard to make friends, that she must keep the ones she has close to her, even if they don’t bring her joy.

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      Subomi
      March 9, 2018 at 6:26 PM

      This life is too short to keep friends who don’t bring us joy around us. Thanks Elaine for your comment

  • Reply
    Heather
    March 9, 2018 at 5:07 PM

    I totally agree with you about relationships like that. Get rid of all that negativity. Who needs it! I will be dumping some friendships too.

    • Reply
      Subomi
      March 9, 2018 at 6:26 PM

      I’m with you on getting rid of negativity. Can’t be having toxic people all around me.

  • Reply
    sweety
    March 13, 2018 at 3:00 PM

    I really wish I could stop thinking about what ppl think about me. But somehow I am always conscious :-/ Great post btw, they are definitely worth of our time.

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